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April 19, 1951 – November 4, 2021

 Our beloved Elizabeth Jean Kilby (nee Ingram) slipped away peacefully on the morning of November 4th, 2021, after a sudden, brief re-encounter with cancer. She leaves to cherish her memory her loving husband of 49 years, Perry, daughter Katherine, son Daniel (Tara), sisters Robin, Janet (Carl), brothers Chuck (Lynn) and Bill (Barb), brothers-in-law Dan (Mim), Mark, sister-in-law Christine, a niece, several nephews, many friends and neighbours, and last and most treasured, her beloved granddaughter, Isla, age one year. Your Nana loves you forever, Sweetheart.

Elizabeth was a mystic, healer, explorer, wife, mother, grandmother and friend. She loved to dance, play with paints, jump in puddles, and explore new frontiers of all kinds. Elizabeth readily became expert at whatever challenge was at hand, teaching herself accounting, computer programming, house building, homesteading, arts & crafts, how to overthrow a workforce-exploiting ski resort in New Zealand (during the 10 days she worked there), run a community water system, reform a condo association, and edit and publish her husband Perry’s first novel – among so many, many other things. She met him while working as a featured dancer in a Klondike review show in Dawson City, Yukon. Two years later they were married, and in their early twenties, she showed her love of travel by backpacking around the world with Perry. They crossed Asia through Afghanistan and Iran in a small Mercedes bus and on public transport, and only slept on brothel floors and in ditches a few times. After living and working in Kamloops for many rewarding years, they moved to White Rock to be closer to family.

Elizabeth was an accomplished dancer and had a life-long fascination with movement and the subtleties of the human body. She trained in multiple healing modalities, distilling the knowledge of a lifetime into a practice uniquely her own. She learned Tai Chi and Qi Gong and many forms of meditation. She loved ballet, the theatre and singing show tunes (she remembered the words or the tune, never both). She loved spending time by the ocean, daffodils, warm weather, and sunshine. She was an impatient artist and knitter, the novelty of any project wearing off after about 20 minutes. This was her sole, and a very tiny, imperfection.

Elizabeth’s serenity, wisdom and kindness were lodestones for everyone who knew her. To journey with her was our greatest blessing. She will be greatly missed but will never be far away. She was our Northern Dancer, and though her candle has gone out, we will dance in her reflected light, always.












Condolence Messages

  1. Loralee Idler

    12 March 2022 7 months ago

    Perry and family,

    Liz and I were high school class mates. I don’t think that we ever saw each other after graduation, but she is one of the people I remember from those days. Her summer job as a dancer was so exotic and unusual, and I liked the way she told the gym teacher what exercises she would and would not do. She refused to do anything that would interfere with her dancing, and she got away with it, because she was a professional! Sorry she’s left you so soon, but glad she had such an adventurous life.

  2. Dave and Bonnie Scott

    15 February 2022 8 months ago

    Bonnie and I express our deepest sympathies to you and your family. You have written a beautiful obituary that speaks of a partner who will stay with you forever. Hugs, big guy.
    Dave Scott

  3. Sheila W.

    14 February 2022 8 months ago

    Dear Perry,
    I was so sorry to see the recent obituary for Elizabeth. Although we had drifted apart through the years I remember well the good times I shared with you and Elizabeth in New Zealand. My condolences also to Robin and your families.
    Sheila W.

  4. Linda (and Saunders family)

    14 February 2022 8 months ago

    We were so sorry to read about the passing of Elizabeth and send our thoughts to Perry and all your family.

  5. Kathleen Thomas

    12 February 2022 8 months ago

    While my time spent with Elizabeth was short, her luminous spirit and kind-heartedness was readily apparent. Her soft voice, gentle words, and warm smile always soothed. What a loss for you all. Thinking of you, Kathleen Thomas.

  6. Polly

    12 February 2022 8 months ago

    I am very sorry to hear of Elizabeth’s passing.

  7. Byron McDell

    11 February 2022 8 months ago

    I never really knew Elizabeth, but I did meet her. I can recognize from the message in the obituary that she was an amazing, independent, unique lady on a quest to fully experience life. To Perry and family, and friends of Elizabeth, my condolences. In the near future, may her memory generate some fresh smiles.

  8. Trish Smerchanski

    11 February 2022 8 months ago

    Perry, Katherine and Daniel – I was so very sorry to hear the news about Elizabeth. Although I lost touch with her when you moved to the coast, I often thought of her and wondered how all of you were doing…..still looking for the RV in my driveway! I have fond memories of the Kamloops Players – Elizabeth a racoon and myself a lizard, good times at Lac le Jeune (nice canoe Perry!) and I remember that “people with tidy houses do not read”! Elizabeth was forever a gentle soul and a shining light who will always be watching over all of you. My sincerst sympathies to all of you – your hearts must be broken. Love to you all – Trish Smerchanski

  9. Vern/Jo Barrett

    11 February 2022 8 months ago

    Elizabeth was an accounting gem in our truck rental business, she took our company to the computer age, and even I got with her programs. She was a pleasure to work with. Sorry for your loss Perry.

  10. Betty Jakel

    10 February 2022 8 months ago

    I am so sorry to hear of Elizabeth’s passing. Perry, I have sent a message to you via your P.J. Kilby website.

  11. Laurie Salter

    10 February 2022 8 months ago

    Elizabeth was a light, treasure and blessing in my life from the day we met in a healing workshop almost 25 years ago.
    She was a joy to be with and had so much love to share.
    I will miss her always.

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