We are heartbroken by the sudden death of our son, Nicholas John O’Connor at home on May 6th, 2020 in Vancouver, BC. He will be forever cherished by his Mom, Patricia, “Pops” Damian, his partner and love of his life, Alanna, his Gramma, Lorraine O’Connor and his many aunts, uncles and cousins, both here and overseas and his extended family in Australia.
Our little Nicky Nickster was born on November 8, 1989 in Edmonton, AB.
Nicholas was the cuddliest happy bubala who became a loving beautiful boy full of confidence, energy and mischief. He always talked to strangers, loved to draw and sing, and he could climb anything!
He grew into the type of man who would never ever leave without telling you he loved you and giving you the biggest kisses and one of his tremendous hugs.
He loved the sky and the stars, and to go for long walks, or ‘adventures’ as he called them. He was all about the little things in life and would always stop to pet any dogs or cats he met along the way. He was a traveller in his own way … riding the bus all around the city, just for the journey, was one of his favourite things to do.
Nick always focused on the positive, and whenever you asked how he was ‘out of 10’ the answer was always an enthusiastic 11! And he loooved his coffee!
He and Alanna could walk and talk for hours about anything, and just as he did as a child, Nick would smile and say hello to everyone. He would always stop if he thought anybody needed anything and always helped in any way he could.
We will all miss his infectious laugh.
Over the last seven years of his life, Nicholas worked very hard to stay on the path to good mental health, and freedom from substance use, and was only a couple of weeks away from completing high school, a milestone we were all looking forward to with pride in his tremendous application and effort.
There were many bumps in the road but he could always depend on Alanna, and our family had never been closer.
His death from an accidental overdose of the evil drug fentanyl has been devastating.
We would like to thank everyone who helped Nicholas over the years. There have been so many healthcare professionals, mental health workers and housing folks who saw Nick’s potential and so often went way beyond their professional responsibilities to help him. We will never forget their support, patience and kindness and especially want to thank Anna K. and Dr. D to whom we will always be grateful.
Please consider a donation to Moms Stop the Harm, a group working to stop the overdose crisis that is killing our children.
We want to leave you with something that our huckleberry friend and his Mom said in each farewell, without fail, as it is our wish for all:
Good choices, Healthy boundaries, Be safe.
Rest in peace Nicholas.